say guys!!..i have a question to you...all and i want the answer also....if you know about past life of your girl friend like she had boyfriends...other boys talk even she had sex with that guy...after her so-called ex-boyfried started telling everyone that she was his bedfriend. once upon a time and you even know that before she was your girlfriend she used to walk with him time and often...she was a close friend of him...he was the one who used to do everything like giving ride....helping and so on to her but when u ask to your girlfriend she says..NO! with a loud voice and says damn it!.so what do u do with your girlfriend..are u all gonna listen to your girlfriend and accept her or u gonna listen to otheres and leave your girlfriend?

well..i think past is past.....

well, to dream a virgin girl is a fairy tell story i assume ! Regarding score scoring here .. it depends in both partner fair you are .. !

If she's a BF in the Past and whatever you heard were true but she does't accept that is not good. If she with kind heart tells you the truth ... herself and promise you that won't happen while being with you or after marriage...

But i don't like the idea to ask her Ex friend whther he had sex with her or not .. that will make dispute with you gf ... better sit down and talk about both of yours past and decide ..

it's a choice either to leave or accept ..

cheers

once i thought to sit down and talk to her...but i m sure we gonna have dispute...now a dayz...mhy feelings are getting out of her because she even doesn't like to talk about that stuff...i probably may leave her...very soon...

hmmm....gentlemen, we've got a 'situation' here :P

infidelity ---->>>>>> is like bang, bang, bangbullets from an AK47 , innit? especially to those who are BRUTALLY honest with your partner, being cheated/used is the WORST experience of all. to me it's the WORST crime ever. on top of that, if it comes from a third person who happens to be your friend and your 'darling' acts as if he/she is completely oblivious about it...IT KILLS!!! so there, i can ALMOST completely feel what you're going through, my friend.

please allow me some leverage to analyze some possible ramifications to the problem:

1) she had relationships in the past, BUT not noteworthy or of any seriousness. they were like casual dates that lasted for few days or months and slowly faded away in vain.

2) okay, she had affairs before. but she comes to you and says she had a bf/ bfs in the past. she even slept with X, Y or Z. but she was being used or the relationship did not work out-- wrong match or whatever. she has broken up with all, they have NOTHING to do with her anymore neither does she, whatsoever. MOST importantly, she is here standing honestly in front of you with a STRONG conviction.

3) same as 2) but she does NOT come to you and accept it because of the FEAR of having to lose you as a consequence.

4) same as 3) but she does NOT accept it because she is NOT sure about you and the relationship with you. in other words, she is still insecure.

5) she just needs "another man" for "time-pass".


the most important thing that needs to be done NOW is proper communication between YOU and HER. call her and set up an appointment to meet. both of you, sit down, take a cup of coffee. add 2 spoonful of sugar and half-half milk. stir it and take a sip. if it's too cold, microwave it for a minute or two. :P. make your head cool, chill out and take all the time in the world to talk everything about it. try to find out if any of those five possibilities that i mentioned is existent.

make sure you know the truth IN ITS ENTIRETY then, it is all up to YOU to decide. if you want my humble opinion, anything BUT (5) is worth forgiving. :-)


LooTe

It appears that LooTe and Capt. arrived here in Sajha- in the same Sajha Bus. :P

Go see a therapist or a shrink. AND STOP DOING YOUR DIRTY LAUNDRY HERE. WE DO NOT WAN TO HEAR IT. You know what they call people like you in Nepal ? NAAAMARD !!
You ain't got the balls to confront your woman. Ther is no such thing as mayne not maybe not. Enought of this kinda bullshit.

Shirish and his conspiracy theories! And Elvis just had hip replacement and was seen sky diving over the Mohave:) I hear he is considering bungee jumping from Victoria Falls next :P

Since I got dragged into this thread, I guess I might as well address the topic at hand. My first reactions were a bit like Bathroom Coffees but I do think Score is genuinely seeking advice and it would be a bit cold-hearted to make light of a situation that clearly causes him so much anguish.

So here I go: Score, go with your gut. Would you be able to spend time with her for the next few weeks, months or years without those thoughts going through your mind? If you feel yes, then, like Loote said, you might want to see if you can make peace with it and put it behind you. On the other hand, if you think it will shroud your feelings about her or cause you not to trust her, then in my opinion, it is not worth it. No relationship in the world is worth stressing over because of infidelity and mistrust. Why add another head-ache to your life?

Just my thoughts based on limited information provided here.

I wish you the best of luck and happiness.

well this is very important issue here
going by the notion past is past,u cant undo it,afterall everybody has got a track-record,the things can be justified
but i guess in two important issues,it fails
1 u never know polygamy/polyandry can result in the transmission of STI(sexually transmitted infection) becos u never know who is infected n who not n above that u dont ask for health certifiacte b4 making gf/bf

2 u may compare between the past n the present partner n may fantacize the old 1 though physically u r with the new one
this rocks the sexual relation of both the partner n may result in frustation which after all isnt good for helathy relationnnnnnnnnnn

okay yo ta bhayo past relation ko kura?
wat if if ur present bf/gf having sex with other while in realtion with u?
forget n forgive or just kick his/her ass
i have seen many giving a second chance becos they love the partner so much that the partner being unfaithful once doesnt deter them from loving them again hoping next time it doesnt happen...........

bikash kc

According to the theory of Evolution, it is very obvious that the proportion of number of sperm are wholly shitty high than the number of ovum existing, this makes ovum to choose between lot of sperms ( here female has lot of possiblity to choose which one to mate), so it rightful decision of any female to have sex with any of the sperm containing Human, that is Man!....this makes the anticipated generation geneticially variable and its worth a good move towards achieving a new adaptable offspring that really endorses the theory of evolution to be true. Here in the case of galfriend having sex with a some X guy is not wrong because there is an existence of a healthy environment of two opposite sex having sex to give this Human civilization an entirely new offspring with possibly good genetic makeup. The world runs in this way...........
So, score dont think that ur galfriend having sex with other guy is not wrong, becuase at the same time u r also involved in a healthy environment of having sex with hot chicks out there wherever u r ( tito satya timile accpet garnai parcha)............don't u admit that u also have sex with chicks being in relationship with ur gal friend at the same time??...think about that dude!!...............remember everyone needs SEX......"sex is very important than life itself"

FORGET ANY ANAYLSIS..THIS IS MATTER OF HEART NOT HEAD!!!BUDDY!!

IF THERE IS ANY REASON TO BELIEVE THEN BELIEVE HER!!!!!
JUST LIKE THIS SONG !!!!YOU SHOULD GET IT!!

WTF!

Talk to your girl instead of listening to other guys.

Score it only shows your own insecurities. Have some confidence in yourself.

score u need to know y u are with her. if i was u i would her as bedpartner only too.

ओह कोम्मोन्, एस्तो युग म आएर पनि एस्तो वाहियात कुरा गर्ने ? एउटा कुरा भनु ? यदि त्यस्तो केही थ्यो भने पनि , आजको मिती मा तिमी उस्को बोएफ्रेन हौ ।
यो गलत हुन सक्छ कि उस्ले आफ्नो पहिलाको कुरा
एदी सत्ते हो भने पनि,
लुकौन खोजिन ।
तर हजुर, यो पनि त साचो हुन सक्छ कि आदको दिन मा उ तिमीलाई एकदम माया गर्छिन होला, तेसैले तिमीलाई गुमाउन पर्ने डर ले झुठ्को स हारा लिन वाध्य भैन कि ? ?
यो पनि त बुझ्ने प्रयास गर्नु पर्‍यो नि हैन र ? ?
यदि तिमी आफुलाई साचै नै उस्को साथी मान्छौ भने,
अन्तमा, कसैलाई औंलाउनु अघी पहिला आफ्नो अचारण लाइ एक पट्क नियाल्नु ,
आफ्नु भुत्, बर्तमान अनि भविष्य मा कुनै गल्ती देख्दैनौ भने, अनि अरुलाई औंला उठाउँनु ।

score:
maja sanga le bajau, jasto bhayepani kehi hundaina.

Score jee,
Let me tell you one thing. I assume u have watched " mahabharat". If not,its worthy watching . Wife of pancha pandav" panchali" had to live with 5 brothers. Who do you think she had slept with? Yudhisthir, considered ,the chakravarti maharaj of Dwapar yuga had to adopt her as a wife who was partially the wife of his brothers too. What would have happened if those genius brothers showed their ego that they won't adopt her as their wife since they cannot have sex with the girl who had already slept with their brothers? It did not happen because, their thougts were way beyond broad than our narrow thoughts today. Panchali wanted to stay with them despite the fact that she would not be able to sleep with a single of them. She sacrificed her life just in the service of 5 husband not as a sex trader but to worship them only.

Can u see the sacrifice of both panchali and pandav here. Why do u not ask her whether she loves u and want to stay with you for the rest of your life? If she says,yes, go ahead and hug her and kiss her and apologize. I would assume she loves you more than anything and want to start new life.One more thing, if u have problem with her from your part, your break up with her will not be your solution rather the begining of your destruction.YOu will have series of this problem even if you get started in new relation

god luck again
jayamatadi

apologize for some grammatical error

score

It will a great excuse to cheat on your girlfriend without ever letting your girlfriend know about it and still not feel guilty for cheating her.

ok i had a tad bit too much time in my hands today...so yeah pls tolerate ;oP hehe..

anyways i heard someone mentionin "mahabharat" so i quickly deleted all that i previously typed :o( dun wanna keep that 'reputation' re kya ;oP..

but yeah still wanted to share my opinions too(and tho they may be repetition of others post..i was thinkin that way too hai!:@ ;oP hehe)....and well loote bro(hes back hes back!;oP hehe) and capt has already given quite nice thots..so has others(but since i havent read all..thot i better not start mentionin too many names ;oP actually come to think of it..before even i knew i had read all the posts here :oS hehe)

this sounds kinda lame esp comin from someone inexperienced in this ;oP and yeah tho experiences teaches well..smtimes we are better off without some/most?..so i cant really say i feel u(plus if i did say that..i might sound too gay ..yeah yeah me and my insecurities ..but that word 'feel' just gives me goosebumps esp when with the same gender ..imagination problem :oS hehe)

like eklo mentioned..past is past..arent we supposed to get over the past..tho yeah gettn over is easier said than done..esp when feelns are involved eh?shows ur really serious about her?hehe..and seeing wat u replied to bhatey..guess ur having a problem right now with communication..and def trust?..which are 2 very (if not the most) important aspect in relationship(yeah im assuming!!wat else expected of an ass eh?:oS ;oP hehe)

and yeah i guess i can go on and on(and end up like the previous post i typed :o| hehe)...u had a question for us..and i guess we all can only give u suggestions..but only u can answer it in the end..and the answer u come up with..well dunno wat it might lead too..but i guess there wont be just one right answer in such a situation?

so yeah just wanna say..good luck..but hopefully u better not jump the gun into makin a decision..cos as they say time always helps hoina?maybe she needs a bit of space esp if ur pushin hard and makin her remember her bad experience(i mean the guy was her ex wasnt he?duh!;oP)and so do u..to clear ur thots and feelns?i mean is she the one u thot u be spending the rest of ur life with?cant think right these days?as capt mentioned..u know feel ur gut..oops i mean u still have those gut feelns dun u?(lame i know!;oP hehe...)

relationships arent born strong are they?they get stonger thru hardships..(seriously this sounds lame comin from me ;oP hehe)and right now seems like both of u are experiencing one..they do say it takes two...but in the end..if worst comes to worst..wouldnt u feel better knowin ur tried ur best or just regret later for makin too quick a decision?ok there is another side..one might get too devastated for tryn too hard and failing :oS...but think about the accomplishment?i mean dun we have the sense of more accomplishment when smthing is harder and we managed to get thru it?

anyways...there is no one without any dirty laundry hoina?(ok ok there are tonnes of angels out there!dun put another paap onto my already too long paap list just cos i assumed a bit again!:oS hehe)and i guess there are times we always do feel we do deserve better..but ironically only when we lost smthing do we realise we already had smthin that good?;oP hehe...plus u heard that sayn "kukkur haru ta bhoknu matrai jancha..bhoki matrai garcha"(loote bro no offence..kinda might sound like its associated to u..but it def aint hai..i mean typing " biralu haru meow matrai garnu jancha" sounds even lamer and doesnt have the same effects i feel :oS hehe)...hope that made sense esp with my kuyeko nepali :oS hehe...when dogs bark we learn to ignore it hoina?esp if that dog that is barkin is the abandoned dog ;oP hehe..

anyways hope all turns out good..in time :oD hehe...and may the communication and trust come back too..im sure u will get better watever happens...so its all good?and yeah this was def way shorter than before hai ;oP..so...

good day!:oD

brother, bottomline.
you can not go for long with this mentality.
so my advice is to break up and find new ,fresh, tight whatever..........
goodluck