I was 10 when my mom pointed at a girl and told me why can't U go to the "DAIRY" like that girl. I looked at the girl. I have seen that girl before but never noticed. A feeling arose in my mind. " well, mom. Wot if I brought this girl as ur daughter in law. she will go to dairy for both families." That was the feeling when I was a kid. It accumulated as a concrete love towards her with time.
I started looking her pass by my house every day in her bicycle. I used to go for walk around her house in the evening. Whenever I saw her, my heart would start reacting in a different way. I started noting this phenomenon as love. I kept liking her till I passed my high school. I never looked at other girls. I felt I would be cheating on her If I even stared at other girls with obscene sense. But I was always afraid to propose her and tell her how much I loved her.
To continue my study, I came to US. But I never forgot her. With the help of her cousin, I got her telephone number. I called her. I thought she would be mad to answer a phone from an unknown guy.Instead, she talked with me as if she knows me before. I proposed her by phone. she hesitate to tell yes in phone. But she told my cousin that she loves me. One day, I asked her if she loved any other guy before me. She told me a guy infront of her house who already proposed her 4 yrs ago. I asked her If she rejected or accepted his proposal. She told me that she didn't tell him anything. According to her, she don't want to make bad relations with the neighbours.............

But wot does that mean? That means she accepted his proposal. Then wot about me.why did she told my cousin that she loves me? Is she double-dealing with me? I spent money more than in any other things just to talk with her......... And now she is confusing me. I asked her if she still loves that guy or she loves me. she said she likes everyone(thing), even cats and dogs. I aint like those animals though.I am gonna ask her more questions on our next call..
I need suggestion from all out Sajha friends to understand my love. Wot's ur view? I will be waiting for comments.. I will be updating our conversation as I call her every saturday and let U all know wheathe I got my 8 yr old love.My Love since my childhood

What is there not to understand? Do you understand the word ''BEFORE YOU''...yup thats the answer.... Enjoy your love.....

Typical. Self satisfaction and protecting their so called fragile heart is most important to the majority of the girls in this living world. Its a hard work. At the same time Im not saying all boys are saints,they have their own style in doing these things.
But in love i think one shouldnt be naive. I think building up a relationship doesnt involve 'yes' and 'no' answer to the question/proposal, it involves a spark(includes attraction) and if not that, time to have that spark. I agree physical attraction is less significant but still what one likes in other is important. Im saying all this, not thinking i am Mr.Right but of my experience so experince may vary.

Rum Bro

Reading at your story it seems as if you are in some dilemma. You are not sure how much you trust the one you love. There is always a line you have to draw in how you are and what you are with your lover. Obliviously you want to be secure of your love and you have jealousy in such matter but, “Jealousy is a sign of love” if you know where to draw that line. If you are jealous to an extent that’s the love for him or her but much of jealousy means you are insecure and you don’t trust the one you love.

Well next time you talk to her probably its good not to rise the same question again to her asking if you still love that guy or do you still keep in touch with him? But I would say if you really love that girl and want her to be yours, ask her how true can she be to you? Say her “ I will trust you by every means and I do trust you for everything” and make her realise that you love her to that extent where she can’t even imagine your love. And tell her because of all the love you have for her and trust towards her will hurt you very much if she breaks your trust by any means. Make her feel that she has been a dream of your life for years now and promise her that you will always remain true and expect her to be true to you as well.

Good Luck with your life bro and hope this relation you want to maintain works for both of you but in life if someone cant be true and does deceive you and do break your trust think that THEY WERE NEVER MEANT FOR YOU.. LIFE HAS TO GO ON…

Have you heard of Russian Proverb - Love is a ring, Ring has no ends.

Sym :)

never once in my life....even counting this one

RuM:

BReak uP Now mann !!
Long Distance REl. is TrouBLE soMe Mann

Rum,

I think you should break-up with her.

"According to her, she don't want to make bad relations with the neighbours............."
She did not accept your proposel than and still to this day she is making excuses.

Dude....she has already made up her mind. She probably told whomever that she loves you is that she doesn't want to hurt your feelings, she is just being nice to you. And to top that all she didn't tell you this herself (Iloveyou!), someone else did. So...god knows what she might have said either.

so...rum have some rum and chill.

You will be just fine.

Either marry her and bring her to the US or you got to Nepal, or forget about her and enjoy the beauties American has to offer you...

Rum I think you need something stronger than rum... Stupidity is not really a disease but somehow has no cure I find.

wateva just know what to say :-)

<------ FAN

Oki firstly you need to clarify whether you 2 are a couple or not. Throughout your post i did not understand if she said if she likes you too and is ready for a relationship. And you have been noticing her all this while but has she ever even seen you? Do you know when you guys are going to be together? Relationship can only happen through a mutual understanding and consent so find out what is in her mind and heart. Ask her if she is ready to commit to you and listen to what she says. If she makes up some excuse, then she is obviously trying to be nice to you and does not really want a relation..

BUT.. If you guys have a mutual understanding and understand that you are a couple now then why do u care about a guy who had proposed your gal once upon a time. Maybe because they are neighbors she has to think about family commitments too. Havent you ever wondered why she told u about that guy? I mean come on if she was two timing you would she let it out so easy? Maybe she is peaceful and doesn't want to just hurt someone's feelings..

The best solution for you would be if you talk to her about it and tell her honestly about your feelings. Tell her that u have been liking her and are feeling insecure about the presence of this guy in her world and discuss it clearly rather than going through cousins. Girls appreciate honesty so rather than being jealous and living with a doubt, you should have a direct talk rather than talking in riddles and never knowing the answer!

Rum,

I understand your feelings but I guess you are missing something. You have been talking with her over the phone for sometime but not yet sure about her feelings. Dude, when you love someone as much as you do then you should go ahead and tell her everything that you feel about her. If she understands your feelings and ready to start relationship with you then what could be better than that. If not, then she probably likes you and wants to keep a good rapport with you but not ready for any serious relationships. So my suggestion is just go ahead and express everything you feel about her.

Another possibility is that she likes you and is also thinking about you as her prospective partner for future but for some reasons she is not sure whether you are all what she wants. Remember you have been loving her since childhood but she might just have started fresh with you in which case, I suggest you to give her some time to think about it.

In either case, be expressive and communicate with her and let her decide about it. If your love is true, you will get her.

RUM:
brake down and break it up
your love sound PHONY !!