For those of you who have children, do you speak to them in Nepali or English? Even though I grew up here, my parents never spoke to me in English and I hate it when others speak to their kids in English. I know I am not going to speak to my kids in English.

When I speak of sending my children to Nepal, I didn't mean for that many years as LooTe means. I'm thinking more like two years or so. Two years is enough to learn the language and be exposed to Nepali culture. Of course, speaking in Nepali at home will still be intact when they return.

well, ss74k,
i know what you are saying. but we are not talking about the western culture impact on our kids. it depends upon how you raise them. if you raise them in nepal, does not always guarentee they will get the best from our own culture. i guess you can raise them anywhere in the world and still teach them good values. it all depends on you as a parent.

i am more concerned about the langauge thing here. not that they cannot be taught both english and nepali if you raise your kids in US, but the chances of making them proficient in both is low, very low. i have observed a family here in my city. the couple has two kids, a 12 years old daughter and a 6 years old son. now the daughter did her primary education in nepal. i guess until she was 10, she was in nepal. then she came to US and within 2 years she has very well mastered the english (language and accent at her level). the boy on the other hand does not speak a word in nepali. he was born and is being raised here.

i know keeping the kids away is a torture for parents, but to gain sth, you ought to lose something as right? and then its just a matter of few years (3-4). may be lesser in some case.

LooTe

LOL loote,
have fun while ur kids are away...
later u might not get that opportunity (O:

i would never even send my 2 year old kid overseas without me, forget about gettin seperated or sending them all alone to settle down!
if you send your little child so far away from you and then get the child back after decades, i dont think itd be the greatest, id raise my child by myself and give much time to him/her, which will affect in his teenage life!
but donno yet! its not just about my decisions :P
:)

I guess someone did promise to return Nepal, if not mistaken!

excuse typos in my last post.

and i agree with nepalikanchha. you may not need long time. 2 years may be more than enough.

the other thing that i would like to point out is, there is a big impact of the friend circle with which kids mingle. no matter how hard you try to teach them a language (any language for that matter), if they speak a certain language with their friends whom they mingle with, that one will be the most dominant and natural language for them and all others will remain overshadowed. its almost impossible for them to master 2 or more languages at the same time with utmost ease.

LooTe

and god knows what your kids wil be doing in Nepal or how theyre being raised and what type of people are around the kid!

loote, isnt 2 too early? the baby wont even know how to talk properly !

I will teach my daughter/ son how to do asskising , asskissers are doing much beter in the world than peoplewho work hard

i think loote promised to return nepal if i am not wrong...

AznshawtY, it sounds like you have no relatives in Nepal! When I speak of sending my kids there, I don't mean for them to settle down on their own. I still have my mom's brothers in Nepal. My kids can stay there for a year or two, learn the culture and the language, and then come back here.

thapap, hahaha...good one, i like that.

azzu, its not a matter of decades sweetie, 1.5-2 years ta ho ni....

flip_flop, haha..i am speaking for those who will stay....i should not use first person "I" :P.

LooTe

nepalikancha, i do have relatives there but i would DEFINITELY not wanna leave my kid overseas for years! be it with my own mom, grandmom, thulomom, blah blah! because how hes raised really affects when he gets old! not that i dont trust my own relatives but seriously, i dont understand how you guys can put up with leaving your OWN kid for years somewhere so far!



loote, you said youd send the kid when hes 2!!!!!?! and then get him back when he slike 14-15! that is a decade!

my dad did not give much of his time when i was little, so i do not like him as much as i like my mom!!

AznshawtY,
u did not get LOOTE's calculation kya...

when the kids are away he is having so much fun that for him a decade is like 2-4 yrs

hoina ta LOOTE... time flies when u r having fun (O:

well azzu you are right...

tesaile ta maile opinion khoji raa ni. i mean let's make it 3-4 years (when they are 3 years old to when they will be say 6-7 years )....and you can send your kids to your relatives (closed ones ) grandmoms will be the best.

LooTe

i agree with Anz, i don' want to send my kids away from me, every time is precious...that time won't come again and again...
keep on dreaming loote..good luck...

Well my dai and bhauju (non-nepali) decided to do the same thing, i.e, they sent their 4 year old kid to Nepal for he hardly spoke any nepali. all of us wanted him to spend the first most important years of his life in Nepal so that he may never forget where he comes from. but it didnt work out since our devil got seriously home-sick and they had to go fetch him in 2 months. so GOODLUCK!

would you be so busy that you wouldnt have the time to speak to your child in nepali? isnt that the reason you'd send your child to nepal? to learn nepali? yes, education is harder and better there till elemntary school but its not bad here either! its just a different way, both ways are going to end up as the same anyway.. i agree till gr 10, its as easy as a piece of cake, and after that it's a drastic change and sschool gets really hard here..but in nepal, its hard from the begining, and students are taught in a disrespectful way and have to memorize a lot! id still prefer north america for education than asia...

I cannot even begin to imagine sending my son away to Nepal. All your kid need is your undivided attention when you're home. As for Nepali speaking, although we talk to him in Nepali at home and he understands it perfectly, he does feel comfortable replying back in English, I don't care what language he speaks as long as he turns out to be a good human being.

I would talk with my kids in Nepali and teach them to read and write in nepali as well.