I am very serious here. I am not faking or making anything. I have been in relationship with a nice nepali girl for long time. Its been more than couple of years. we were totally devoted and committed to each other. we both are educated and mature. we even talked with our parents about each other and they were also very happy for both of us as we are from same caste too.

I will not write here how much i loved her and still do and what i did for her and everything. To make this story short, I just want to say this, i always gave her love, respected her, encouraged her, treated her as my best friend, my girl friend and my wife. we have spend time together as well, meaning cooking, grocery shopping, going out, washing dishes, and so many things.

I believe that she also loved me a lot. she took teej ko brata for me, prayed for my success, asked me to meet her parents and asked me to talk about marriage and i did that as well. Everythign was so perfect in my life.

My wonderful life suddenly changed few months ago when I learnt that my beloved girl is going out with some other guy. she cheated me. When i found out about this, i requested her to come back and asked her why she did this to me. she had no answer for that and she jsut tried to get away from me. since i had known her family and frined well, I called them to know if they know about anything related to this. Noone knew at that time. but irony is, she thought that i told everyone that she is cheating on me and dating some guy, but that was not the case. i never told anyone about that at that time. why would i do that when i treated her as my wife. This incident might have irritated her and she became closer with other guy and had physical relationship as well. I guess she did not think about anything at that time. she did not think about consequences.

After I knew she is cheating on me, i could not control myself and because of this I screwed up my semester. I screwed up so badly that I could not get over with this. That thing completely changed my career and I am no where now. I am struggling just to save my status. I am not explaining everything here but i went through a lot because of this. I am totally depressed and thought about so many bad things. Many bad things started to came in my mind.

I tried to forget her but could not do so. I still love her very much and I want her back. she knows this very well. we still talk to each other. Now she is saying that she just want to be friend with me and she does nt want to talk about love and marriage now. she does nt deny that she still love me and care about me. I dont know if she gonna come back to me or not. she has accepted her fault and she knows that she destroyed my life while whatever she is doing now is because of me. I did so much for her and she knows this.
she sometime says, she broke the promise she has given to me and slept with someone else so she can not come back to me. But i told her that please forget about that and just come back to me. I told her that do not compare my love and respect and our long relationship with one sex. I also want to say you one thing that we too slept together as well. For me, I really love her and want her back but i dont know what she is thinking. I still dont understand that is it because of guiltyness that she is hesitating to come back because she cheated on me or she really wants to go away from me. if she wants to go away from me, why she is still talking to me? I told her that i can not be friend with her. I told her that I can either be her husband/bf or no one. i can forgive her if she come back to me and say sorry but if she tries to be just friend with me, then i will say she used me and threw in trash.

I am expecting some comments from girls/women here. is it possible for a girl to come back after all this. I mean she had a good relationship with a nice guy and she cheated him even though he loved her so much and later he found out about this. she also slept with new guy. however the pld guy ( me) still wants her and love her as much as he used to. she knows that he loves her a lot. This is really killing me and i am really depressed. I want her back. I dont know how it gonna happen but i want this to happen. what should I do now?

You have just these two choices-

1. Either you choose to be a "FORREST GUMP" (Movie- Forrest Gump)

2. Or you can choose to be a "CHUCK NOLAND" (Movie-Castaway)

If I were you, I would choose the second one.

What you say????

leave her...why are you confused????

the guy must be muslim....

Then you gotta be player. If she is playing with everybody then you gotta play like that too. She is having fun and fulfilling her physical desire. She is having romance and having fun in sex. It’s just a simple human desire where she fked love. I don’t blame her thou. It’s understandable that you can’t leave her easily and you want to get her back no matter what. I respect your love. If she wants to be your friend only then, be her friend. Do not let her know your weaknesses anymore. Take her company (that’s your satisfaction for now) and move your life forward. You gotta be something first and you could get whatever you want after that. I know emotions are not that easy to control but don’t do stupid things (like I did a lot and almost fked my life). Do not fk your life and finish your study on time. Love is everything. Start living life as her friend and take some time. If she comes back then you guys are good to go. That would be more mature love.

Being "Muslim" in this case means squat, so get over her dude and have a fresh start (I know it's hard but such is life).

listen dude. forget dat bit*h. i know it's hard to say dat when you really love her.
but first you told us dat you loved her so much and yet she cheated on you.
you were so nice to her yet she hurt you.
dude she dosen't appreciate your love and care.
therefore it's no pointing going after her since you would only hurt yourself more.
be a MAN, dump dat bit*h and get your life moving again.

and yes tell her parents and friends too dat she's a bit*h.

I am not muslim. The guy she went out with is not muslim either. I am a brahmin guy and the girl is brahmin too. her family knows what she did to me. they are not happy with her as well. however, they are her family and parents so I dont think they will be always with me. They were with me when this thing happened but now they are not in touch with me like they used to. this could be because they are ashamed of their daughter/sister's behaviour and nothing to say to me or they just want me to forget their daughter/sister.

It is not easy for me to be just friend with her. How can I forget all those days and time that I spent with her and those dreams that i saw with her. I am waiting for her for some more time. If she come back to me that fine, if not i would say she used me and i will try to forget her. Sometimes I think about taking revenge with her and destroying her life as well. but i love her so much that I can not do that to her. Her parent's innocent face comes infront of my eyes and i think about the consequences if I do something wrong to her family/her. These kind of thinking sometimes comes in my mind because I am depressed. I think this is a sign of depression. I hope she will realize and come back to me one day. Hopefully sooner than later.

number,

This sounds like a story of my friend in NE, hopefully ur not that person. But listen dude, dont keep a friendship with her for those reasons.

1. If she was really ur friend, then she would have left u before screwing another man.

2. The gurl never loved u because ppl in love just dont cheat. PPl who claim to be in love who cheat are in infatuation, attraction, pity, and the idea of being in love but not really in love.

3. She wants to be ur friend, cos women dont like making enemy, if she can get u to be her friend then she would never have to worry about getting stabbed someday. (not that i assume that ur a stabbing type)

4.She wants to be ur friend, cos she likes the way u love and support her. Why loose that when she can keep it available from u all the time.

5. She would like to call u a friend, cos she doesnt want u to walk around saying what a slut she was.

Just imagine, if u were to cheat on ur women and hurt her and leave her, u would want to say sorry, be her friend and end it nicely rt? Same thing..women pull this friendship crap for their safety, social status and their social status.

Your woman knows very well that beiing ur friend, and keeping touch with u kills u slowly everyday. She also knows that leaving u alone is the only possible cure for u to get over her but she wouldnt do that for u. She raped ur emotions for those 2 years and she still wants to rape ur emotions again.

Think carefully. In the past, u said u both loved eachother very much. Think twice on wether that was really the truth or is that something u wanted to believe. If u cant judge ur own relationship, cos ur were blind in love , ask ur best friends, ask them how ur relationship was with this bit^&. Ask them who had his/her way most of the time during the relationship. May be the relationship was held together just cos u loved her and she never loved u. And yet u wanted to believe that she loved u as well. Dont forgive the bit^&. Dont be her friend, cos she is a manipulator and also and emotional rapist.

For Next time be with someone who loves u than someone whom u love. Its always safe to be with someone who loves u.

this storys ..common..

well after readin ur story, this is what i think

shes so immature
shes a cheater
i dont wanna bring harsh words here so id stop here!

if she comes back to you, whatever you do, dont fall for her

Fuc% that Bitiich!!!She is not worth it!!don't beg her to come back!!!You can get better girl than that!
She is not guilty ..trust me ..she is not a kid ..she did what she wanted to do to screw around with another person when in relationship..
forget her ..don't mess your life for her..girls come and go ..Be a man , Do the right thing:)

one of my friend also told me similar thing like sidster did. our relationship is more than two years old. i think she loved me as well. she used to call me everyday, sent emails everyday, did fasting in in teej, prayed for me and asked me to meet her parents and introduced me with her friends as her future husband.

my friend also told me like sidster did. he also believes that one who cheats you while you are in relationship can never be a good friend and she is doing this so that she will not feel gullty and she will easily move to others keeping friendship with me. I also think i can not be friend with her. If she comes fine, if not better be enemy than a friend with her. yeah, no one cheats if he/she really loves his/her partner. i never felt like going out with hot girls of my college. there are hundreds of hot girls out here but i never got attaracted, i always thought i have one and i was happy with that.

Mate,
Relationship is a process not a possession. She broke the rule and now it's your turn. Make a move. Start a fresh new healthy relationship with someone else who REALLY worths it.

Similar thing happened to someone I knew. He got over it and now got a great career with the wonderful family.

नम्बर बिरादेर,
केटी लाई केटा, केटालाइ केटी जुत्ता बराबर हुन्छ रे । अफ्नो खुट्टा हुनु पर्‍यो ब्रो- जुत्ता जति पनि पाइन्छ रे भन्छन्।

ब्रो को लवर गैछन्, अब आउदिनन् फर्केर भन्ठान्नु । अहिलेको भावना emotions ले गर्दा त्यस्तो अनुभव भएको हो ब्रो। आफ्नै लवरै भए पनि जो भए पनि तर बास्तविक जिबनमा अर्कै सग सुति सकेको केटीलाइ स्विकार गरे पछि त्यो कुरा ले दिमागमा नजानिदो तरिकले strike गरि रहेको हुन्छ। भविस्यमा एक दिन त्यहि बिषयमा कचपच् सुरु हुन्छ, अनि छोरा-छोरीको जीबन बर्बाद गरेर ब्रेक्-अप गर्नु पर्ने स्थिति आउछ। त्यो कुरा न-आउनको लागि प्रीयतमा लाइ बिर्सि दिम् ब्रो। यहि सबभन्दा राम्रो हो। यसमै ब्रोको भलाइ छ जस्तो मलाइ लाग्छ है।

Bhatiza GK

Number,
Even one of my my friend is going thru this situation.
I don`t understand wot are you people waiting for??
for her comeback? Try to forget her,try to come out of it.Concentrate on ur studies, build up ur carreer first.I know its not that easy .Well,time is greatest healer.Try to keep urself busy,hangout with ur friends.
Dont even think about taking revenge with her and destroying her life, believe me ,you will hurt yourself.But make a move,start a new life!

exactly, shes such a bi*tch, so she sleeps with another guy and makes that an excuse to break up with you? i dont buy that, thats pathetic, just dont fall for ehr next time and you should move on! :)

To all the ladies who responded to this thread,

I think what number wants is to know is why women act that way? Why is she forcing for a friendship deal? and would she really come back to him? I think he is asking for insights on women behaviour not suggestions.

well prolly cuz she found the other guy better in looks, monet? or she got brainwashed? or lost interest in her boyfriend.. there are lotta reasons why women do that!

"I can't come back to you because I fu#C%&kd someone else" is the lamest excuse to give to anyone....Number", as harsh as I may sound, I think she has gotten over you......
From what I can understand, the only reason why she wants to be a fren with you is because she still wants to be in your and her family's good books...
My suggestion(if that means anything) is stay away from her... You deserve someone better!!!!

sidster is again right. why did she do that to me, when i was giving her everything. did she take me for granted? some of her friends who has seen other guy told me that i am better looking than that guy, i have better education than that guy. I don t understand all this. she met this guy just about 4-5 times and did that. this thing is killing me, how could this happen. she is from a good and educated family and i know all of her family members too. she is also helpful to others and good in studies as well. for other people who has gotten help from her might think that she is helpful, yes she is, but for me how would i judge her. should i judge her with her education quality, should i judge her with her helping nature or should i judge her as a cheater who betrayed me and destroyed my life.

if she was really over with me, if she really started disliking me she should have told me. i had asked her so many times about this. why did not she tell me? it hurts more when i found about this. it would have little better if she had told me that she is not interested with me anymore and later started seeing someone else.

it is true that she was brainwashes because she used to tell me and her family same thing that the other guy taught her and asked her to do. I am a simple guy and i always believed in a one girl. she was the one who dragged me all the up to this point. i told her many times that before we make decision and let our parents know we need to make sure we really want to be together and only then I told my parents. she did earlier than i did.

how can a girl forget such a long relationship and compare such a long relationship with one night stand. this is ridiculous and i simply could not understood this.

when i asked her reasons for this, she does nt have any reason. i aksed her many times just give me some reason why you did to me then she never answers. sometimes she says that now she wants to be with new guy because she slept with him and he will feel like she has used him. how about me dammit? did not you used me ? that is what i tell her sometime and that is what i tell myself sometime.